The authors devote an entire chapter to how and why sexual desire may decrease as the family grows. After all, low sexual desire is one of women's most frequent concerns.In their casual style, Semans and Winks offer various solutions on how to adjust to these changes; and for those interested, they provide suggestions on how to rekindle passion.

Another chapter describes the special challenges that single mothers may meet. I am not familiar with other books having incorporated this topic, making this Guide to Sex useful for women in a variety of settings.

I recommend the book to anyone considering starting a family and to individuals who already have children.


May Possibly Conflict With Moral Beliefs   January 13, 2002
 42 out of 58 found this review helpful

Depending on your moral or religious convictions, you may find this book in conflict with them. I ordered the book based on the reccomendation of a friend, but found it not very helpful because many of the things suggested violate my moral & religious principles. Some examples: strong encouragement to practice extensive masturbation, use of pornography, use of vibrators and sex toys, the authors' stated conviction that "monogamy is boring" [I haven't found it so, wish I had the time and energy to jump my hubby every single night], etc. It also might be worth noting that both authors spent 10 years working in a sex shop selling vibrators and sex toys - they have a *very* permissive perspective on sex, in my opinion.

I expected more help in the practicalities - I haven't lost my sex drive, I just seldom have any energy or time to cater to it, which I find frustrating. I expected more on how to balance life with children and less on practices that aren't an option for me. I'd really have appreciated more suggestions on making an opportunity to enjoy sex with my sexy husband instead of advice to masturbate more often.

This is not a criticism of *anyone's* morals or sexual beliefs. For a person with a different frame of reference, this book would probably be extremely useful. But I do think it is worth noting that some women might find it less useful [or downright offensive depending on how strict their beliefs are]. Those buyers should beware - this isn't the book for you.


A great gift   October 17, 2001
 3 out of 10 found this review helpful

My friend who is a few weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy gave me The Mother's Guide to Sex ... it is SO amazing ... it reoriented me, and the stuff about teaching kids about their bodies and sexuality was brilliant.


Best Book for Moms and Moms to Be   June 12, 2001
 4 out of 8 found this review helpful

I found out that I was pregnant at the same time that I saw the book in the store. It has so far been invaluable throughout the pregnancy, acknowledging the changes I've been experiencing and still allowing me to explore and find a place for my sexual pleasure.

I've already read all the parts about AFTER the baby's born, and can't wait to apply their sex-positive ideas to my own little one in a few years.

Thank you, Anne and Cathy! Whether you're a mom-to-be or have kids of your own, this book is for you. Buy it today. Makes a great baby shower gift, too.